If you think about it, relationships aren’t that different from your paycheck: you start with big expectations, but in the end, you’re always left wondering where the hell it all went. And here I am today, just like yesterday—or the day before that—reflecting on two songs that, as an old boss of mine would say, “look different, but feel the same.”

These two songs triggered a question that you’ve probably asked yourself while pretending to work or staring at the ceiling at 3 a.m., questioning every life choice you’ve ever made: Is it better to seek answers in a uncertain  relationship or end it quickly and move on?

So, I was just wondering
Could you tell me, is it all a waste of time?
Are you leaving my love behind?
Baby, say the word and let me know
(Baby, say the word and let me GO)

So if you're gonna break my heart, just break it
And if you're gonna take your shot, then take it
Take it
If you made up your mind, then make it
Make this fast

Lewis, with his poetic ability to make us feel miserable in the most beautiful way possible, says:
"Is it all a waste of time? Are you leaving my love behind? Just say something—anything."

Lewis is that friend who’s always waiting for a text that never arrives. Faced with uncertainty, he chooses to stick around and seek answers. He wants clarity—a sign, a definitive "yes" or "no." Essentially, he’s like someone stuck in a job they hate but can’t quit because, well, bills don’t pay themselves, and there’s still hope for a raise (spoiler: it won't happen, just quit).

Pros of Being a Lewis:

• You can sleep peacefully knowing you gave it your all (even if you’re actually not sleeping because you’re checking your phone every five minutes).
• If the relationship survives, you’ll have a great story to tell (and maybe even a song on YouTube with 7 views).
• You become a romantic martyr, which is great if you like drama and sad playlists.

Cons of Being a Lewis:

• You might spend months (or years) waiting for a response that never comes.
• Uncertainty eats away at you, much like seeing your bank account hit zero before the end of the month.
• You’ll probably end up sending long texts that start with "I just wanted to ask..." and end with "Don’t worry, I’m fine" 🤥.

On the other hand, we have Brett, who basically says:
"If you’re gonna break my heart, just break it. If you’ve already made up your mind, act on it. Do it, you coward! Now!"

Brett doesn’t have time for games. If the relationship is doomed, he’d rather go for a quick and clean death. No dragging things out, no cryptic messages. He’s the type who blocks your number before you can even say, "We need to talk." (Not cool, Brett. Not cool. You don’t just block people 👀)

Pros of Being a Brett:

• You save time and emotional energy (which you can use for more important things, like complaining about your job or learning to bake bread).
• You skip the emotional limbo and start healing faster (I guess).
• You see yourself as someone strong and determined, even though inside you are crying like a baby 😢.

Cons of Being a Brett:

• You might seem cold or insensitive (sometimes that’s a plus).
• You don’t always get the closure you need to truly move on.
• Acting too fast might lead to regret, like buying something on sale and realizing you didn’t actually need it.

Personally, I lean toward Brett Young’s philosophy. Why? Because life is already complicated enough without waiting around for someone to decide if they want to be with you. If someone can’t see your worth, why should you stick around like you’re waiting for overtime pay that’s never coming?

There’s something deeply liberating about cutting ties quickly. It’s like ripping off a band-aid: it hurts, sure, but the pain doesn’t last. And let’s be honest—who has time to write long texts and listen to vague excuses when you could be watching YouTube reels or, I don’t know, looking for another job because yours doesn’t pay enough?

Here’s the deep part (because this piece is longer than my monthly report at work, so it needs a moment of reflection): uncertainty in relationships isn’t just a romantic problem—it’s a reflection of our struggle with control and acceptance. We crave answers because they make us feel secure, but the truth is, life (and love) is inherently uncertain.

So the real question isn’t whether you should seek clarity or end things quickly, but whether you can embrace uncertainty as part of the process. Because at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if you’re a Lewis Capaldi or a Brett Young. What matters is making a decision that allows you to move forward.

The choice is yours. Life goes on, love hurts, and there will always be another sad song to cry to in the shower.

And if all else fails...you can always adopt a cat 😼. Or better yet, pick up a hobby that doesn’t involve spending money 💵🍷.